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A New York Times and Los Angeles Times BestsellerThe best-selling author of Smoke Gets in Your Eyes expands our sense of what it means to treat the dead with "dignity."Fascinated by our pervasive fear of dead bodies, mortician Caitlin Doughty set out to discover how other cultures care for the dead. From Here to Eternity is an immersive global journey that introduces compelling, powerful rituals almost entirely unknown in America.In rural Indonesia, she watches a man clean and dress his grandfather’s mummified body, which has resided in the family home for two years. In La Paz, she meets Bolivian natitas (cigarette-smoking, wish-granting human skulls), and in Tokyo she encounters the Japanese kotsuage ceremony, in which relatives use chopsticks to pluck their loved-ones’ bones from cremation ashes.With boundless curiosity and gallows humor, Doughty vividly describes decomposed bodies and investigates the world’s funerary history. She introduces deathcare innovators researching body composting and green burial, and examines how varied traditions, from Mexico’s Días de los Muertos to Zoroastrian sky burial help us see our own death customs in a new light.Doughty contends that the American funeral industry sells a particular―and, upon close inspection, peculiar―set of "respectful" rites: bodies are whisked to a mortuary, pumped full of chemicals, and entombed in concrete. She argues that our expensive, impersonal system fosters a corrosive fear of death that hinders our ability to cope and mourn. By comparing customs, she demonstrates that mourners everywhere respond best when they help care for the deceased, and have space to participate in the process.Exquisitely illustrated by artist Landis Blair, From Here to Eternity is an adventure into the morbid unknown, a story about the many fascinating ways people everywhere have confronted the very human challenge of mortality. 45 illustrations

Inspired by a true story, Color Me Butterfly follows four generations of mothers and daughters—haunted by a common specter of domestic abuse—as they discover the strength, hope, and courage to survive.The last thing Eloise Bingham wanted was to leave the comforts of her South Carolina home and family. But at the end of World War II, the young wife follows her husband, Isaac, to Philadelphia—only to experience his sinister and violent temper. Eloise’s children—and their children and grandchildren—will face their own trials over the next sixty years: Mattie, who has lived in her mother Eloise’s shadow, finds it takes a life-changing tragedy to help her break free; Lydia, Mattie’s strong-willed daughter, summons the resolve to rise above the cycle of abuse; and finally, Treasure, Lydia’s lively daughter, has the chance to be the first to escape her family’s destructive legacy.It will take unconditional love, old-fashioned family values, faith, and fearless determination—already embedded in each woman’s DNA—to triumph over a life plagued with unspeakable pain.

Natascha Mcelhone, Star Of The Truman Show And Californication, Was Filming In La, Seven Months Pregnant With Her Third Child With Her Other Two Young Children Playing In The Gym Across The Road When She Got A Call From A Friend That Would Change Her Life Forever. Her Husband, Martin, The Love Of Her Life And Father To Her Delightful Children And An Apparently Healthy Man In His Early 40s Had Died Suddenly Of A Heart Attack. In The Weeks And Months That Followed The Devastating Shock Natascha Continued To Write Her Diary And Letters To Martin (something She Had Always Done As, Due To Her Work, She Was Used To Being Far From Home). They Were Letters Of Love, Letters About Their Gorgeous Boys, Letters About The Birth Of The New Baby And Diary Entries Detailing The Mundane And Heartbreaking Details Of Her New Life: House Repairs And Terrifying Family Finances; Trying To Keep The Children's Lives As Normal As Possible In The Face Of Such Abnormal New Circumstances. The Result Is A Powerful, Honest And Moving Story Of A Magical Love Affair And All-consuming Grief, Of Being A Mother Alone And Trying To Live For The Future.

When Matriarchs Begin To Disappear, There Is A Choice To Either Step Into The Places They Left Behind, Or To Craft A New Space. Helen Knott’s Debut Memoir, In My Own Moccasins, Wowed Reviewers, Award Juries, And Readers Alike With Its Profoundly Honest And Moving Account Of Addiction, Intergenerational Trauma, Resilience, And Survival. Now, In Her Highly Anticipated Second Book, Knott Returns With A Chronicle Of Grief, Love, And Legacy. Having Lost Both Her Mom And Grandmother In Just Over Six Months, Forced To Navigate The Fine Lines Between Matriarchy, Martyrdom, And Codependency, Knott Realizes She Must Let Go, Not Just Of The Women Who Raised Her, But Of The Woman She Thought She Was. Woven Into The Pages Are Themes Of Mourning, Sobriety Through Loss, And Generational Dreaming. Becoming A Matriarch Is Charted With Poetic Insights, Sass, Humour, And Heart, Taking The Reader Over The Rivers And Mountains Of Dane Zaa Territory In Northeastern British Columbia, Along The Cobbled Streets Of Antigua, Guatemala, And Straight To The Heart Of What Matriarchy Truly Means. This Is A Journey Through Pain, On The Way To Becoming.

"A chilling account." New York Times SHORTLISTED - Prime Minister's Literary Awards, Non-Fiction 2018 This is a story of Jelena Dokic's survival. How she survived as a refugee, twice. How she survived on the tennis court to become world No. 4. But, most importantly, how she survived her father, Damir Dokic, the tennis dad from hell. Jelena was a prodigious talent, heralded as Australia's greatest tennis hope since Evonne Goolagong. She had exceptional skills, a steely nerve and an extraordinary ability to fight on the court. Off it she endured huge challenges; being an 'outsider' in her new country, poverty and racism. Still she starred on the tennis court. By 18, she was in the world's top 10. By 19, she was No. 4. The world was charmed by her and her story – a refugee whose family had made Australia home when she was eleven years old. Jelena has not told a soul her incredible, explosive story in full – until now. From war-torn Yugoslavia to Sydney to Wimbledon, she narrates her hellish ascent to becoming one of the best tennis players in the women’s game, and her heart-breaking fall from the top. Her gutsy honesty will leave you in awe. Her fight back from darkness will uplift you. Most of all, Jelena's will to survive will inspire you. _______________________________________________ PRAISE FOR UNBREAKABLE "A study in what truly makes a champion." Herald Sun "Unbreakable has the gut-wrenching quality of a Greek myth: a daughter torn between loyalty to her family and her need to break free in order to survive." The Sydney Morning Herald "A book you will think about for hours after finishing it, and perhaps shed a tear while reading it." Townsville Bulletin

A memoir-in-essays from disability advocate and creator of the Instagram account @sitting_pretty Rebekah Taussig, processing a lifetime of memories to paint a beautiful, nuanced portrait of a body that looks and moves differently than most.Growing up as a paralyzed girl during the 90s and early 2000s, Rebekah Taussig only saw disability depicted as something monstrous (The Hunchback of Notre Dame), inspirational (Helen Keller), or angelic (Forrest Gump). None of this felt right; and as she got older, she longed for more stories that allowed disability to be complex and ordinary, uncomfortable and fine, painful and fulfilling.Writing about the rhythms and textures of what it means to live in a body that doesn’t fit, Rebekah reflects on everything from the complications of kindness and charity, living both independently and dependently, experiencing intimacy, and how the pervasiveness of ableism in our everyday media directly translates to everyday life.Disability affects all of us, directly or indirectly, at one point or another. By exploring this truth in poignant and lyrical essays, Taussig illustrates the need for more stories and more voices to understand the diversity of humanity. Sitting Pretty challenges us as a society to be patient and vigilant, practical and imaginative, kind and relentless, as we set to work to write an entirely different story.

Jazz Thornton first attempted to take her own life at the age of 12. Multiple attempts followed and she spent time in psychiatric wards and under medical supervision as she rode the rollercoaster of depression and anxiety through her teenage years - yet the attempts continued. Find out what Jazz learned about how her negative thought patterns came to be, and how she turned those thoughts, and her life, around. Who and what helped, and what didn't help. The insights she gives will help create greater understanding of those grappling with mental illness, and those around them who desperately want to help. Jazz went on to attend film school, and to co-found Voices of Hope, a non-profit organisation dedicated to helping those with mental health issues and show them there is a way forward. She creates online content to provide hope and help.

THE SUNDAY TIMES TOP TEN BESTSELLER SHORTLISTED FOR THE COSTA BIOGRAPHY AWARD 'So very important' NIGELLA LAWSON 'Brilliantly alive' SUNDAY TIMES 'A truly wonderful book. Read it' HENRY MARSH 'Shows us the very best of human nature' ADAM KAY 'Her words are brimful of love, grace and kindness' GUARDIAN As a specialist in palliative medicine, Dr Rachel Clarke chooses to inhabit a place many people would find too tragic to contemplate. Every day, she tries to bring care and comfort to those reaching the end of their lives and to help make dying more bearable. Rachel's training was put to the test in 2017 when her beloved GP father was diagnosed with terminal cancer. She learned that nothing - even the best palliative care - can sugar-coat the pain of losing someone you love. And yet, she argues, in a hospice there is more of what matters in life - more love, more strength, more kindness, more joy, more tenderness, more grace, more compassion - than you could ever imagine. For if there is a difference between people who know they are dying and the rest of us, it is simply this: that the terminally ill know their time is running out, while we live as though we have all the time in the world. Dear Life is a book about the vital importance of human connection, by the doctor we would all want by our sides at a time of crisis. It is a love letter - to a father, to a profession, to life itself.

In this darkly comic exploration of loss, intimacy, and motherhood, three women are joined by a baby who never lived. Morgan, in her middle years, is the grieving mother of a stillborn child. Elena, the failed midwife, burdened by guilt, is considering a career change. Dolores, eighteen, is pregnant with a baby she does not want. Meanwhile, Constantinople, the child who wasn’t meant to be, wanders lost in search of his mother, trying to make sense of the world while making an unlikely appearance in each woman’s personal drama.   Poignant, lyrical, ingeniously absurd, and outrageously funny, Jen Silverman’s Still is a brave and remarkable exploration of grief and family. It is the seventh winner of the DC Horn Foundation/Yale Drama Series Prize, selected this year by Marsha Norman, the Pulitzer Prize–winning author of Getting Out; ’night, Mother; and other acclaimed theatrical works.

A MARIE CLAIRE BEST MEMOIR OF THE YEAR • A USA TODAY MUST READ BOOK • A W MAGAZINE MOST ANTICIPATED BOOK • A SHEREADS BEST MEMOIR OF THE SUMMER A charming, poignant, and mesmerizing memoir in essays from beloved actor and natural-born storyteller Minnie Driver, chronicling the way life works out even when it doesn’t. In this intimate, beautifully crafted collection, Driver writes with disarming charm and candor about her bohemian upbringing between England and Barbados; her post-university travails and triumphs—from being the only student in her acting school not taken on by an agent to being discovered at a rave in a muddy field in the English countryside; shooting to fame in one of the most influential films of the 1990s and being nominated for an Academy Award; and finding the true light of her life, her son. She chronicles her unconventional career path, including the time she gave up on acting to sell jeans in Uruguay, her journey as a single parent, and the heartbreaking loss of her mother.  Like Lena Dunham in Not That Kind of Girl, Gabrielle Union in We’re Going to Need More Wine and Patti Smith in Just Kids, Driver writes with razor-sharp humor and grace as she explores navigating the depths of failure, fighting for success, discovering the unmatched wonder and challenge of motherhood, and wading through immeasurable grief. Effortlessly charming, deeply funny, personal, and honest, Managing Expectations reminds us of the way life works out—even when it doesn’t.